Surprising Friends Theory Completely Changes Phoebe’s Relationship With 1 Character

One Friends theory changes Phoebe’s relationship with one of the other main characters and would have affected one of her closest friends, too.
The main characters in Friends were a tight-knit group that always had each other’s backs, but one theory completely changes Phoebe’s (Lisa Kudrow) relationship with one member of the group and would have affected one of her closest friends, too. Friends continues to be one of the greatest TV shows of all time, and it’s still quite popular, more so now that it can be enjoyed on streaming platforms. Given its popularity, Friends hasn’t been safe from a variety of theories that try to solve some of the show’s biggest mysteries and plot holes.
Many other Friends theories simply try to give a new perspective to the characters or the show in general, although the most popular ones have gone on truly dark paths. Others, however, have originated from specific details that viewers have found throughout the show that could completely change the stories of one or more characters, and not necessarily for good. Among them is one about Phoebe and her relationship with Chandler (Matthew Perry), which would have also directly impacted her relationship with Monica (Courteney Cox).
Friends Theory Claims Phoebe Was Secretly In Love With Chandler
Phoebe was always trying to break Chandler & Monica up.
At different points throughout Friends , Phoebe tried to sabotage Chandler and Monica’s relationship.

A theory shared on Reddit suggests that Phoebe was secretly in love with Chandler throughout Friends. Phoebe had a unique and dynamic relationship with each of the other main characters in Friends, and she always seemed closer to Joey (Matt LeBlanc). This even makes way for the belief, even between Kudrow and LeBlanc, that Phoebe and Joey were secretly “friends with benefits”, but this theory claims that Phoebe actually had feelings for Joey’s best friend and roommate, Chandler, even after he started dating Monica .

She jumped at the chance of revealing their relationship secret by pretending to seduce Chandler, which she did for fun but might also have had other intentions.
Although Phoebe didn’t give Chandler any type of special treatment or anything like that, the author of the theory points out that, at different points throughout Friends, Phoebe tried to sabotage Chandler and Monica’s relationship. First, she jumped at the chance of revealing their secret relationship by pretending to seduce Chandler, which she did for fun but might also have had other intentions. Some time later, on their way to Las Vegas, Phoebe revealed in front of Chandler that Monica had had dinner with Richard, which caused tension between Chandler and Monica.

When Monica and Chandler were planning their wedding, Phoebe revealed that Monica originally wanted to hook up with Joey on the night. Monica and Chandler slept together in London, which, understandably, upset Chandler. Months later, she also revealed in front of Chandler that Monica had a bachelorette party with a male stripper, even though Monica and Chandler had agreed not to have that type of parties. On another occasion, Phoebe introduced Monica to her “soulmate”, even though she was already with Chandler.
Phoebe was especially meant to Chandler throughout Friends , which the author of the theory sees like when a kid is mean to another one because they like them.

Another attempt from Phoebe to sabotage Chandler and Monica’s relationship was when she was writing a book and everything they did, which caused tension among the three of them. Last but not least, Phoebe was especially meant to Chandler throughout Friends, which the author of the theory sees like when a kid is mean to another one because they like them, and Phoebe held to be quite childish.

Phoebe Sabotaging Chandler & Monica Could Have Been For Monica’s Benefit
Phoebe’s plans might have been for Monica’s good.
Phoebe’s attempts to break Chandler and Monica up could have been because she believed Monica could do better

The above evidence supports Phoebe’s secret crush on Chandler and her desire to be with him, but another Reddit user has a different interpretation of this. Phoebe’s attempts to break Chandler and Monica up could have been because she believed Monica could do better. Phoebe constantly questioned Monica’s decision to be with Chandler and shown that she thought he was below her, saying Monica could do better but being with Monica was great for Chandler.

Phoebe might have thought the least of Chandler, and so she tried to show Monica she deserved better by trying to break them up and even introducing her to a better match (according to Phoebe, at least). Ultimately, Phoebe’s attempts failed and Chandler and Monica went on to have the best relationship in Friends.
How This Theory Changes Phoebe & Chandler’s Stories
The theory adds to the tragedy of Phoebe Buffay.
If Phoebe was in love with Chandler, it adds the tragedy of seeing the man she loved fall for one of her best friends.

Phoebe is the Friends character with the most tragic backstory, with her father abandoning her family, her stepmother killing herself, her stepfather going to jail, and Phoebe having to live on the streets for years. Phoebe never had a family, and although she got everything she never had when she married Mike (Paul Rudd), if she was secretly in love with Chandler, this adds the tragedy of seeing the man she loved fall for one of her best friends.
The theory not only affects Phoebe’s story but also Chandler’s. Chandler also had a difficult family life and was in constant search for love and validation – and if Phoebe was in love with him, it would mean that he always had what he wanted, but he never noticed. Although the evidence is believable, it’s likely Phoebe only did those things for her own amusement, which, as entertaining as it can be to watch, doesn’t speak highly of her, either.