Doris Roberts: 11 Facts About the ‘Everybody Loves Raymond’ Star
Check out the sometimes rocky road that led the actress to become the mother of all TV mothers
When it comes to mothers on TV sitcoms, nobody did it better than Doris Roberts, who portrayed them a number of times, but never as effectively as Everybody Loves Raymond’s Marie Barone. Here she was at 5′ 1″ tall, a little dynamo who, when she chose to use her gifts of guilt or anger, intimidated the other members of her family, including 6′ 8″ son Robert.
The power that emanated from Doris Roberts — despite the fact it was played on the show for comedy — was actually reflective and a result of the journey she took in life. Born on November 4, 1925 in St. Louis, Missouri, she had (justifiably) “daddy issues” due to the fact her father abandoned she and her mother when she was a child; she fought like hell to establish herself as an actress — a marriage coming together and falling apart in the process — and began eeking out roles on Broadway and in television guest appearances, before scoring some film roles.
Her credits are extensive, though there were only a handful of TV shows that she was a regular cast member on, including Angie (1979 to 1980), Maggie (1981), Remington Steele (1983 to 1987) and, of course, Everybody Loves Raymond (1996 to 2005), not to mention all of the recurring roles she portrayed as well.
Over the course of a career that began in 1951 and went until 2015, she won five Emmy Awards and One Screen Actor’s Guild award. Beyond that, Doris Roberts was an animal rights advocate, working with Puppies Behind Bars, a program that allows prison inmates to train dogs for the elderly and physically disabled; and she was Chairman of the Children with AIDS Foundation.
Presumably you didn’t know a number of those facts about Doris Roberts, but there are even more to follow.
1. She was emotionally impacted by her father’s abandonment
When she was a child, Doris and her mother were abandoned by her father, and the impact on her emotionally was very strong. “For years,” she admitted, “I thought it was my fault. All little kids think divorce or desertion has to do with them. It took me years to let go of that; years not to expect any man I loved to ‘take a walk.’”
2. When she was four or five she was attracted to the idea of performing
As Doris told The Sela Enterprise, “I had one line in a play in kindergarten in which I said, ‘I am Patrick Patato and this is my cousin, Mrs. Tomato.’ There was laughter in the room and I loved the sound of that. It made me feel very important and that’s what I wanted to do from that moment.”
3. After getting married, she studied acting late each night
In 1956, Doris married Michael Cannata and they had a son named Michael, but her desire for a career definitely added some strain to their marriage. She detailed, “In the late ’50s and early ’60s, I couldn’t get arrested on or off Broadway, so I made work for myself. From midnight until 3 A.M., I studied at the Actor’s Studio in New York. Why at that hour? Because I couldn’t get my then-husband to babysit until then. And I needed to work for my sense of self. Even then it was hard to keep believing in my talent when I wasn’t getting paid for the work I did. Still, what I learned was priceless.”
4. Acting roles came her way on TV and Broadway
Early credits included anthology series during television’s Golden Age, among them Starlight Theatre (1951), Studio One and Suspense (both of which were in 1952) and Look Up and Live (1954). The next year she would appear in two Broadway shows, The Time of Your Life and The Desk Set.
5. Her marriage fell apart in 1962
The marriage fell apart in 1962, which was difficult for her, especially since she was terrified — her word, not ours — of being alone. In a very candid interview with The Sacramento Bee, Doris also acknowledged that she knew she had to make a commitment to her lifeL “In those days, women were taught not only that they couldn’t, but that they shouldn’t be independent. A man, they said, doesn’t want a woman who is too strong.”
6. Doris Roberts frequently self-sabotaged her life
Doris stated that in her early efforts to go life alone, she would actually make herself sick. “Every time I came close to succeeding,” she said, “I’d become ill. A part of me didn’t want to make it on my own. My sickness in wanting a man, a Big Daddy-like man to take over my life and make it all wonderful.” It actually took years of therapy before she found that she could depend on herself.
7. During her second marriage, she was becoming an increasingly angry woman
Throughout the 1960s and 1970s, Doris worked pretty consistently as a guest star on TV shows and playing supporting roles in films. She also married writer William Goyen in 1963 and though they were together for 20 years until his death, during the early years she found that she was growing angrier as a person. This was largely due to the dissatisfaction she felt overher career; that although she was working, she innately knew that she should be farther along than she was.
8. Her view on life changed after her son’s skiing accident
Her entire outlook on life changed after her son experienced a skiing accident that nearly left him a quadriplegic, but somehow didn’t. Her response? “To think there was a time when I was so worried about tomorrow and so angry about what didn’t happen yesterday, that I couldn’t enjoy today. Michael’s accident changed me. It slowed me down. It grounded me in the present. Because I was always about how wonderful everything would be when I reached the promised land, I never enjoyed what I had.”
9. Angie was the first regular series for Doris Roberts
Although she was a part of The Mary Tyler Moore Hour in 1979, more significant was the fact that producer Garry Marshall (The Odd Couple, Happy Days) cast her as the mother of Donna Pescow’s Angelina “Angie” Falco in the television series Angie. At the time she was frequently asked if this was the time of her life, but, in reflection of her new philosophy, she differed, “When Michael was born, when I married Bill, those were the times of my life. Angie does make me feel like I’m attending my own birthday party everyday, but my family, my husband and son are the cake and Angie‘s the icing.”
Angie only lasted a single season, but after doing some guest starring, in 1980 she was a regular on the series Maggie, created by Erma Bombeck, best friend and hair dresser to series lead Mariam Flynn in the title role.
10. Then Came Remington Steele
Obviously when people think of Remington Steele, thoughts of Pierce Brosnan and Stephanie Zimbalist come to mind, but it should be noted that Doris became an integral part of the show as former IRS agent Mildred Krebs. She started off merely an office worker, but through her talents and comedic skills, the part continued to grow larger.
As she related to the Los Angeles Times in 1985, the experience had such a positive impact on her life and self-esteem. “A lot of women,” she stated, “who are past 45 feel obsolete, because they don’t find their purpose in life and are usually intimidated by youth. I came out here from New York feeling obsolete. I was angry that I was no longer that thin, pretty, sexy young woman. I was a mature woman and everyone around me was young. And I hated them. But then I began to look at the things I had accomplished, all the good work I had done on the Broadway stage and all the wonderful relationships I had made in my life.”
11. Everybody Loves Raymond‘s Marie Barone became Doris Roberts’ most famous role
TV history came calling and Doris answered the door when she took on the role of Marie Barone on the Ray Romano series Everybody Loves Raymond, which ran from 1996 to 2005. While the show’s stars were really Romano and Patricia Heaton as husband-and-wife Ray and Debra Barone, the cast was filled out with Brad Garrett as Ray’s ever-jealous brother Robert and, as his parents who lived right across the street, Doris and Peter Boyle as Marie and Frank Barone. The chemistry between them all was evident right from the first episode and it’s why the show still holds up today, nearly two decades since it went off the air.
