The ubiquitous love triangle in Titanic forced the spirited Rose DeWitt Bukater (Kate Winslet) to choose between two completely dissimilar men; her fiancé the ambitious Caledon Hockley (Billy Zane), and Jack Dawson (Leonardo DiCaprio) the charming artist. Some viewers felt the love story took precedence over the emotional turmoil already inherent to the maritime disaster, but it remains one of the most famous of all cinematic romances.
To properly judge Rose’s decision, fans have to put aside the Hollywood cliche of the young woman choosing a penniless suitor because he truly loves her over a wealthy one because he wishes to possess her. Likewise, no honest critique would be valid without clarifying that Rose’s personal safety was of utmost importance, and no amount of abuse was acceptable or tolerable. To truly contemplate Rose’s pick, fans must consider the time period in which the film takes place, and the subjective nature of selecting passion over practicality.
CAL: He Was Sophisticated
Cal Hockley looked the part of the perfect 20th century gentleman, cutting a dashing figure in his waistcoats and starched collars. Every garment he wore fit snug, as only a gentleman could afford to get his garments professional tailored. Coming from an old money family that gained its affluence through Pittsburgh steel, he was expected to telegraph his wealth in his style of dress.
He also practiced the urbane manners of his era, which while stringent in equanimity, could be exceedingly charming. Besides, it doesn’t get any more sophisticated than surviving a sinking ship still wearing white tie.
JACK: He Respected Her
Unlike her fiancé, Jack was curious about Rose’s opinion, and encouraged her to speak her mind whether it was appropriate or not. He never belittled her thoughts, and certainly not in front of other people.
Jack supported Rose developing her own ideas about everything, from global politics to Dr. Sigmund Freud’s theories about sexuality. Most importantly, he would never have laid a hand on her for being free spirited.
CAL: He Supported Her Interests Even Though He Didn’t Share Them
While their stateroom was being set up, Rose unpacked several paintings by Picasso. Cal mocked them, declaring loudly that the prolific painter “wouldn’t amount to a thing,” to which Rose replied: “The difference between Cal’s taste in art and mine is that I have some.” Their exchange conveyed a number of enlightening things.
One, that he chose to support her interests and purchase paintings for her despite having no interest in them himself. Two, that on occasion he could turn a blind eye to personal insults against him without being melodramatic. And three, that he didn’t decide where they would be hung, thereby approving of her artistic sense with the understanding that she had expertise where he did not.
JACK: He Made Her Feel Safe
Like many women in society, Rose was inundated with obligations that felt meaningless and vapid. She longed for an existence with purpose; one that enriched her soul and made her feel weightless instead of hopelessly tethered.
When she was around Jack, she felt free of the responsibilities of being a “good wife” and “dutiful daughter.” Jack never expected her to behave in a particular way, so she could cast propriety to the wind whenever she was with him.
