Peter Scanavino, the actor behind Law & Order: SVU’s beloved Sonny Carisi, has a lot more in common with his on-screen character than fans might think. While Carisi might still be figuring out the ups and downs of fatherhood, Scanavino is already a dad to three children. And in the real world, he’s found an invaluable parenting role model in none other than his SVU co-star, Mariska Hargitay.
In a recent interview with People, Scanavino opened up about his personal life, his experience as a father, and how Hargitay has helped guide him in his parenting journey. From working together on set to bonding over parenthood behind the scenes, Scanavino’s relationship with Hargitay goes beyond the professional. Let’s dive into the friendship and mentorship that have flourished between these two stars of SVU.
Mariska Hargitay: A Parenting Role Model
For those who have been following SVU, it’s clear that Mariska Hargitay’s portrayal of Olivia Benson has made a lasting impact on fans. But behind the scenes, Hargitay is equally inspiring to those around her, especially when it comes to parenting. Hargitay, a mom to three children—August (17), Amaya (12), and Andrew (12)—is known for her warm and open personality, and Peter Scanavino has often spoken about how her parenting style has influenced his own.
A Playful, Collaborative Spirit: Hargitay’s Parenting Approach
Scanavino described Hargitay as a “very playful person,” which has made her an excellent role model for both him and his co-stars. He admires her collaborative nature and openness to various viewpoints, something that has been especially valuable as both are parents in their personal lives.
“She’s totally collaborative, open to whatever, and that’s really impressive,” Scanavino says, adding that Hargitay’s willingness to listen and engage in conversation makes her stand out. It’s clear that Hargitay’s approach isn’t just about discipline and structure but also about fostering an environment of understanding and connection.
Hargitay’s parenting philosophy seems to be rooted in her ability to balance playfulness with guidance, an approach that Scanavino admires deeply. Despite her strong opinions, she’s open to listening and adjusting, which has been a crucial influence on Scanavino’s own parenting journey.
A Strong, Inquisitive Parent
What Scanavino finds most valuable about Hargitay’s parenting style is her strength and inquisitiveness. “She’s a really inquisitive, strong person that’s open to all kinds of different things,” Scanavino says. This open-mindedness, he believes, is key to being an excellent parent. It also helps her stay connected with her children as they grow older and experience new stages in life.
Being inquisitive allows Hargitay to navigate the challenges of parenthood with an open heart and mind, constantly learning and adapting to the needs of her kids. For Scanavino, that approach has been crucial as he navigates fatherhood himself.
Peter Scanavino: From Carisi to Dad in Real Life
While Peter Scanavino’s SVU character, Sonny Carisi, is still adjusting to fatherhood on-screen, in real life, Scanavino has already gone through many stages of parenting. He and his wife, Lisha Bai, share three children together, and Scanavino often reflects on the experience of being a father. In fact, he draws much of his parenting wisdom from his own experiences, but he also takes inspiration from Hargitay.
Parenthood: A Journey of Doubts and Revelations
Scanavino admits that, like many parents, he often second-guesses himself. “I think a lot of being a parent is second-guessing yourself, if you’re doing the right thing,” he shares. “Should you step in? Should you help your child? Should you let them figure it out on their own?” These doubts are a universal part of the parenting experience, and Scanavino’s candidness about his own feelings of uncertainty resonates with many parents.
He goes on to explain that revisiting his own experiences of parenting younger children has been therapeutic, especially as he plays Carisi, who is just beginning his journey as a father on the show. For Scanavino, getting to relive those moments through his character has given him a fresh perspective on fatherhood and a deeper appreciation for the experience.
Applying Real-Life Experience to the Role of Carisi
Unlike Carisi, who is still figuring out how to navigate the complexities of being a father, Scanavino has the benefit of experience. This allows him to bring a different layer of authenticity to his portrayal of Carisi as a father. In fact, Scanavino believes that his real-life experiences as a parent help him connect with his character’s evolution.
“I think me personally, I’m a bit more experienced as a father than Carisi,” he says. “So it’s almost kind of nice to revisit that part of myself.” For Scanavino, it’s a unique opportunity to reflect on the challenges and joys of raising children, which only enhances his portrayal of Carisi as he continues to grow as a father on the show.
How Mariska Hargitay’s Influence Shapes Scanavino’s Parenting Style
Peter Scanavino has always been a dedicated and thoughtful father, but Mariska Hargitay’s mentorship has further shaped his approach to parenting. Scanavino’s admiration for Hargitay’s parenting style is clear, and he regularly looks to her for advice when navigating the ups and downs of raising children.
Parenting Tips from Mariska Hargitay: Playfulness Meets Strong Boundaries
For Scanavino, the key takeaway from Hargitay’s parenting is the importance of being open and playful while maintaining strong boundaries. This balance allows Hargitay to connect with her children in meaningful ways while still providing the structure and discipline they need. Scanavino has taken note of this approach and often reflects on it as he raises his own children.
He admires how Hargitay’s parenting doesn’t just focus on teaching but also on connecting emotionally with her kids. This is a lesson that Scanavino has taken to heart and applied in his own family life.
Building Strong Foundations: The Role of Supportive Friendships in Parenthood
Beyond parenting tips, Scanavino speaks highly of the overall support system that Mariska Hargitay has created in her life. Their friendship is a reflection of the support they both provide to one another, both on and off the set of SVU. This mutual understanding and support extend to their roles as parents, showing that even in Hollywood, strong friendships are key to navigating the challenges of raising children.
As Scanavino continues to balance his family life with his demanding acting career, having someone like Hargitay to turn to for guidance makes a world of difference. And as his own children grow older, it’s clear that Hargitay’s influence will continue to play an essential role in how he approaches parenting.
Conclusion: A Bond Forged Through Parenthood
Peter Scanavino’s relationship with Mariska Hargitay is a testament to the power of friendship and mentorship. Through their shared experiences as parents, Scanavino has found a valuable source of guidance and inspiration in Hargitay. From their playful nature to their openness to different viewpoints, Hargitay’s parenting style has undoubtedly influenced Scanavino’s own approach to fatherhood.
As both continue their journeys as parents, it’s clear that their bond goes far beyond their roles as colleagues on SVU. Their friendship and mutual respect continue to inspire both on and off the screen, making them one of the most relatable and supportive duos in Hollywood. For Scanavino, Mariska Hargitay is more than just a co-star—she’s a true role model.
